I won't look back, God knows the fruitless efforts,
The wasted, the sinning, the regrets,
I leave them all with Him who blots the record,
And mercifully forgives and then forgets.

I don't look forward; GOD sees all the future,
The road that long or short will lead me home,
And He will face with me its every trial,
And bear for me the burdens that may comes.

But I look up - into the face of JESUS,
For there my heart can rest, my fears are stilled,
And there is joy, love, and light darkness,
And perfect peace, and Hope fulfilled.

by Annie Johnson Flint
1.Be their lawyer. Defend them to the end, no matter what.
2. Be their banker. Give them what they want, even if you can't afford it. The child learns they never need to worry about money.
3. Be their insurance company. anytime they screw up,
be there prepared to cushion the shock. Accept responsibility for what they do.
4. Be their agent. Don't let them have to earn things. If the child makes the team, but doesn't make starting line-up and hasn't played in two games, go down to the coach and say that my boy needs to play. Intercede for the child. They learn someone else will take care of it.
5. Be their mechanic. Fix anything that goes wrong in their life, so they never have to worry about getting themselves out of any jam they may get into. When they become adults they will still need you to fix things for them.
6. Be their butler. Everybody needs a clean room and house and meals whenever they want them. Face it - they are going to be rich adults one day and will need to know how to manage a butler. What is learned is irresponsibility - that they don't need to do things for themselves.
7. Be their administrative assistant. Keep up with their schedules - make sure they get where they need to be on time and take messages for them. After all - they are going to be presidents of corporations one day and they need to know how to manage an administrative assistant. Why not let them practice on you.
8. Be their apologist. Apologize for their mistakes. When they do something embarrassing, why not internalize it and make excuses for them. Again - the child learns they don't have to be accountable for their behavior.
9. Be their emotional doormat. Let them dump all their emotional baggage on you. Let them step on you and take control of your house.
10. Be their fairy godmother or father. Pull out the magic wand and make everything OK. If they run out of money, pull out your magic wand and manufacture some. If they wreck the car - fix it. The child never learns they have to be responsible for their actions and that there are things they have to do.
11. Be their medicine man. When they become overwhelmed with dysfunction the governments healthcare system will give them all the drugs they need to cope with psychological disorders.

TESTIMONY by Robert L Mitchell
I raised three drug addicts. One committed suicide and one was convicted of multiple felonies. My wife and I did most of the 11 contributing factors. I wrote a book about the experience and my daughter coauthored it from Orange County Jail. It would be an excellent compliment to your resource list. Thank you for putting these causes in public domain. My book is for the victims of the substance abuser. it is Christ Centered, the only way I could have survived 16 years of hell on earth.
Robert L. Mitchell